I always wondered about the Bush twins (well, most twins since we've been dealing with infertility) & the way they came about. Apparently Laura Bush "used hormones" to conceive according to her book which was on my mother's summer reading list. She didn't go into details, but I appreciate her not pulling a Jennifer Lopez & lying about it. Sure J-Lo; you had fraternal boy/girl twins @ 40 by dumb luck. How's that Kool-Aid you're drinking taste?
Anyways, this quote is from Laura Bush's book. It's beautiful & completely true. It sums up what I want to scream from the rooftops but have never had the ability to put into a single, simple paragraph:
"The English language lacks the words 'to mourn an absence.' For the loss of a parent, grandparent, spouse, child or friend we have all manner of words and phrases, some helpful, some not. Still, we are conditioned to say something, even if it is only 'I am sorry for your loss.' But for an absence, for someone who was never there at all, we are wordless to capture that particular emptiness. For those who deeply want children and are denied them, those missing babies hover like silent, ephemeral shadows over their lives. Who can describe the feel of a tiny hand that is never held?"