Thursday, January 29, 2009

I'm a godmother!

My BFF's wife gave birth to a son on Tuesday night. I'm a godmother! Since they live about 1 1/2 hours from them I haven't seen him in person yet but the hubby & I are planning on going to visit on Saturday. I'll be sure to post a photo or 2; hopefully we can give him a playmate in the near future. They're still trying to figure out when he is being christened since Lent is coming soon & one can't be baptized during that time in the Catholic church.

OMG Lent is in a few weeks! Which means that my 30th birthday (which is on Easter this year) is just around the corner. I'm actually not freaked about turning 30; I think it bothers my mom though. Her "baby" is turning 30! We share the same birthday, BTW; I was her 23rd birthday present. I'm still hoping I'll get a positive pregnancy test in time for my birthday.

Friday, January 23, 2009

"I need a hug."

"I need a hug."

My hubby says this to me at least a couple times a week; for a guy he is uber-snuggly, which can be either nice or annoying depending on my mood. When I got my period the other day, he needed one & I obliged since this now means we are past the 6 month mark of trying to make a baby. I think he was more disappointed to see Ye Olde arrive than I was.


I just don't get it. We've had perfect timing for the past 5 months using a combination of OPKs (ovulation prediction kits) & a CBEFM (Clear Blue Easy Fertility Monitor). Also, I have pretty much textbook 27 or 28 days cycles, complete with 13 or 14 day luteal phases. Translated into English, that means I'm normal.

*another sigh*

My parents & a few close friends know we are seeing a specialist next month. I wanted to smack my mother when she told me to "just relax"; my mom & I have a great relationship, but this was coming from a woman who had an oops (me) & only took 3 months to have a baby on purpose (my sister).

But onto happier things...

We are going to Florida! Vid has time off for spring break (he's college faculty) & with the winter we've been having 80 degrees sounds wonderful. It was only $300 for both of us to fly round trip; yay Southwest! And we'll be shacking up @ my aunt's house or her fiance's (she will stay with him & give us her place or he will stay with her & give us his place); very nice, especially since I will probably be ovulating around that time & we will need alone time unless we finally get pregnant this cycle.

Yep, that's what our lives have come to: having sex according to what the machine tells us. But I kind of like my mom's theory we may come back from Florida with a souvenir.


Monday, January 19, 2009

I'm bored

But lack motivation. So I stole this from a friend's blog:

1. What did you do in 2008 that you'd never done before?
Went to Vegas. It was a blast!

2. Did you keep your New Year's Resolutions, and will you make more for next year?
I don't do resolutions; it's like being set up to fail.

3. Did anyone close to you give birth?

4. Did anyone close to you die?

5. What countries did you visit?
Stayed in the US.

6. What would you like to have in 2009 that you lacked in 2008?
A baby (or at least, a baby bump!)

7. What dates from 2008 will remain etched upon your memory, and why?
My weddings (both: 2/1 & 6/21).

8. What was your biggest achievement of the year?
Nothing. That's kind of sad, huh?

9. What was your biggest failure?
Still not finishing my thesis. I just don't care anymore.

10. Did you suffer any illness or injury?
Nothing serious.

11. What was the best thing someone bought you?
New living room & bed room furniture; DH & I got it for ourselves.

12. Whose behaviour merited celebration?
My maternal grandpa wasn't drunk @ our weddings thank the Lord!

13. Whose behaviour made you appalled and/or depressed?
Too many to list.

14. Where did most of your money go?
Paying off debts.

15. What did you get really, really, really excited about?
Trying to conceive.

16. What song will always remind you of 2008?
No idea.

17. Compared to this time last year, are you:
a) happier or sadder? happier

b) fatter or skinnier? same

c) richer or poorer? Well we're both employed now but it doesn't seem like there's more money around!

18. What do you wish you'd done more of?

19. What do you wish you'd done less of?
Yell @ my hubby when I had a bad day.

20. How did you spend Christmas?
We spent it @ my parents' house with relatives.

21. Did you fall in love in 2008?
I fall in love with my husband all the time :)

22. How many one night stands?
I'm married, so none!

23. What was your favourite TV program?
Ghost Hunters

24. Do you hate anyone now that you didn't hate this time last year?

25. What was the best book you read?
Nothing really noteworthy.

26. What was your greatest musical discovery of the year?

27. What did you want and get?
A honeymoon.

28. What did you want and not get?
Pregnant :(

29. What was your favourite film of this year?
Slumdog Millionaire.

30. What did you do on your birthday, and how old were you?
I turned 29. We buried my grandmother. It was not fun.

31. What one thing would have made your year immeasurably more satisfying?
Having a job I actually enjoyed & that also paid decent.

32. How would you describe your personal fashion concept in 2008?
Machine washable.

33. What kept you sane?
My husband & my pets.

34. Which celebrity/public figure did you fancy the most?
No idea.

35. What political issue stirred you the most?
Illegal immigration. If you aren't here legally you shouldn't be here at all!

36. Who do you miss?
Lost of people.

37. What was the best thing you ate?

38. Tell us a valuable life lesson you learned in 2008?
Getting pregnant is generally only easy for those who have no business having children.

Saturday, January 17, 2009


The high temp around these parts has been in the single digits for the past 2 days; brrr! Granted we in New England should be used to the snow & the cold, but it doesn't mean it's enjoyable. My favorite season is autumn; I love the crisp (not cold) temps & the colors. The warmer weather of spring may only be 8 weeks away but it sue doesn't seem like it.

I remember back in high school we got 6 inches of snow on April Fool's Day; nobody believed the weatherman when it was forecast. At the time we were hosting an exchange student from the island of Guadeloupe in the Caribbean; she had never seen snow before & took an entire roll of film of the white stuff.

My husband also comes from a tropical locale (southern India) but had seen snow several times in northern India. Last winter when we were living with my parents since he was unemployed my dad taught him how to use the snowblower which he thought was the best thing since sliced bread. Men & their toys! But now that we're back on our own & have to manually shovel snow he's not so into winter anymore. I promised him when we buy a house of our own I will get him a snowblower for his birthday or something.

Speaking of which, Vid's birthday was earlier this week. Since we both had to work that day, we didn't do anything uber-special except go out to dinner. And then since we're old we went to sleep @ 9:30 that night. His actual present is I got us tickets to go see Celtic Woman in March. The hubby loves them; he has a couple of their CDs & watches them whenever they are on PBS. My late grandma introduced him to Celtic Woman; yep, an Indian guy loves Irish music!

Friday, January 9, 2009

Baby rabies

I had today off & am working on getting the apartment back into shape; it looks like a bomb went off in here! I ran a ton of errands this afternoon & generally got stuff done. I'm sad to say the one thing I've yet to do is hang stuff on the walls; we've been here for almost 6 months & it's pretty ridiculous actually.

Vid's birthday is on Pongal which happens next week; we're going up to temple this weekend for it. He'll be 29 & is slightly disturbed that he is entering the last year of his 20s. He's installed a program on his computer so he can voice chat with his parents back in India. They let us know they will be praying for a grandchild when they go to temple on Pongal; Vid will be praying for the same thing.

Speaking of babies, in a few weeks I have to go to a baby shower for an unwed, unstable relative. It also happens to be the day before our 1st wedding anniversary. I've thought about if I get a BFP or not by then & how I will handle the "So when are you having kids?" questions from all of my relatives. Our parents, sisters & a few very close friends know we are trying but not the extended family, none of whom read this blog that I am aware of. If I am pregnant, I won't be far enough along that I would be comfortable telling them anyways. If I'm not, well, I'm going to be honest: I will probably be bitter & perhaps a bit snarky since the mother-to-be in this particular case really doesn't have any business being pregnant. I hate this about myself, but I think of all the women I know who are stable financially, emotionally & relationship-wise who are having trouble having kids & yet she gets pregnant without even wanting to.

I didn't intend for this blog to become all about babies, but it seems to be heading down that road. You have been warned!

Saturday, January 3, 2009

I don't do resolutions

I should be @ work but I'm not. Because I blew a tire & bent an axle on my way to work this morning. Effing pot holes! I shudder to think what this will cost me. And I know it happened because I deposited the money I got for Christmas yesterday that I planned on paying off a credit card with. I just can't win.


Happy 2009! And holy shit, I can't believe it's 2009! We went to the movies & grabbed a pizza on the way home New Year's Eve. The hubby & I were in bed watching the ball drop on TV & went to sleep soon after. It was way too cold to be anywhere else.

I know you're supposed to make resolutions this time of year but I won't; instead, I hope. In broad terms, I hope 2009 is better than 2008. Besides getting married, there wasn't much positive that happened last year. A lot of deaths, a few layoffs, medical issues. Specifically, I hope we both remain employed (yes, I'm still looking for something better). Also, I hope we can pay off enough debt & sock away enough money to buy a starter house. I hope there are no more surprise deaths or medical issues among family & friends. And finally, I hope we finally get pregnant & have a healthy baby.

2009. Where did the time go? We'll be married a year next month & I'll be turning the big three-oh in April. It doesn't seem that long ago I was having Big Bird @ my 3rd birthday party & I had met this weird Indian guy that was also very cute. ;)