I meant to post this on Sunday but to say things have been nutty around here would be the understatement of the year. I'll go into that in a later post, but for now, I have an announcement. And no, it's not that, though I wish it were. The announcement is I am officially leaving the Roman Catholic church.
At Mass this past Sunday the priest was giving a homily based on the day's readings which talked about how a man should not be alone & in marriage they become "one in the marital act". He went into how the church doesn't really do a good job talking to people about healthy relationships & specifically a good sex life within marriage. I was totally on board with this until he crossed all 4 lanes of traffic & took the exit to Crazy Town.
He then went off about how IVF is sinful because it "removes the marital act". Excuse me? Just because we're infertile doesn't mean we don't have sex. Has infertility affected our sex life? Sure. But I still love my husband in both body & mind. And really, what infertile doesn't wish to simply partake in "the marital act" to get pregnant? I'd love to get a kid for free, without being pumped full of meds & maybe actually get an orgasm from the whole experience!
It was all I could do not to walk out in the middle of Mass. What stopped me was the fact I sing in choir & have too much respect for my fellow choir members to cause a scene. But after this, I am officially done with the Catholic church. I will be checking out a local Episcopal church this weekend. Not only are they fine with infertility treatment, they are also "yay for gay" which is another plus in my book.
The only joy I got out of this whole experience is having the knowledge that this very same priest who is so against IVF has baptized at least 2 babies who were conceived that way. I doubt he is aware of this. I'd love to tell him to see his reaction, but I also don't want to "out" these people. I personally think their children are beautifully made by science in the image of God; why can't he see this? They are children; that's all. Not the product of sin, but of a love so great that their parents went through hell to have them.