Thursday, June 18, 2009

OMG, like, fat women can get pregnant?!?one!?!

Normally, when I watch TV, it's TLC, Travel Channel, History Channel (or as my dad calls it, "The Hitler Channel" with all the WWII stuff on it) or Discovery Health. What can I say? I'm a nerd through & through; if I didn't suck so hard core @ math I would have certainly gone to med school. I love learning, especially about weird stuff, like conjoined twins & rare genetic diseases. And even though it's self torturous in a way having been TTC unsuccessfully for 12 cycles now, I've watched at least a show or 2 each night on "Baby Week" all this week.

Last night, they had a show on it called "Obese & Pregnant" that followed 3 women's journeys to motherhood as plus size women. As someone who came into this world weighing 9 lbs 15 oz & who has NEVER been anything but fat, I was interested to see what kind of sensationalized view of obese pregnancy would be shown.

Before someone out in cyberspace jumps down my throat, let me be clear: I am by no means saying it's just fine & dandy for anyone to be over 100 lbs heavier (or more) than you should be & pregnant. Of course, there are medical issues both mom & baby may face due to such an excess of weight. However, weight alone is not a good indicator of how one's body will respond favorably or unfavorably to pregnancy. A prime example is my own obese mother who had 2 successful pregnancies without gestational diabetes, high blood pressure, etc. She actually called me up during the show to remind me of this; I love my mommy. :)

I think what bothers me most is what 1 woman on the show, Christie, said about not being able to find cute maternity clothes. I guess most fashion designers assume since fat women are un-fuckable we couldn't possibly get pregnant, right? Unfortunately, I could not find a clip of her on YouTube so this will have to suffice:

Just like back in high school when I went shopping for a prom dress & when I was engaged & went shopping for a wedding dress, I was made to feel like a second class citizen by having to go to a "specialty" store. Half of the women in the US are over a size 14; wouldn't that also mean, using basic reason, that roughly half the pregnant women in the US are also plus size? I've not seen any commentary about this on Shapely Prose; I'm kind of suprised, actually.

Vid & I have been actively trying to get into better shape these past few months after having fallen off the proverbial wagon this winter. While my hubby isn't obese, he is overweight & a non-insulin dependent diabetic, which I am always harping on him an extremely loving way, of course.

All the bloodowork I've had & other tests show I am reproductively normal & my doctor says my weight doesn't appear to be the reason we aren't pregnant. Yet, I always wonder in the back of my head if those who know me & know we are having trouble TTC assume we aren't pregnant yet because I'm fat. My RE has told me he'd obviously like to see me lose some weight to get "the best possible outcome for everyone" but also acknowledged "given your medical history, there is no reason to worry at this point." Have I mentioned before how much I love him? I think I have. :)

1 comment:

Megan said...

I could have written this myself. While we aren't TTC yet (soon) i'm terrified that my weight will be an issue.
I always joked that I should be come a fashion designer since plus size clothes are majorly lacking. Plus maternity is a joke.
Wishing you much luck as you TTC.